Special Event! Eight Things To Know Before You Marry

Jessica Rareshide, a regular speaker at Jefferson Parish Libraries on the topics of resumes and finding the right job, will discuss “Eight Things to Know Before Getting Married” at 7 p.m., Thursday, Jan. 22, at the East Bank Regional Library, 4747 W. Napoleon, Metairie.

Rareshide is on marriage number three but it’s long-term and she is happy. She will talk about what she learned through her marriages and how they got her to where she is today. 

Core Values – Do They Match

• Honesty, Kindness, thoughtfulness, work ethic, etc.
• Do they demonstrate behaviors that align with well-established guidelines such as the Ten Commandments?

Financial

• Saver or Spender? If both parties are savers, there will be less financial stress.
• Joint checking or separate accounts? Will the highest earner make most of the decisions?

Sex

• How often? Weekly, monthly, daily?
• What about romance before and after. How do you define romance?
• What needs to happen for you to be in the mood to be physically loved?

Religion

• If one is a Baptist and one a Catholic, is there an understanding of what that means during the marriage?
• What if one party doesn’t believe in God?

Family and Friends

• Are family and friends supportive of the marriage?
• Many couples report stress when one is very close to the mother or father.

Children

• Does each party want children? If so, how many? And what happens when one of the couple does not want children?
• Who is going to do the parenting? Both of you? What will that look like?

Pets

• Do both parties want a pet, and if so, what kind? Who is going to take care of the pet? Will the pet become a financial burden?

Addictions

• Alcohol, drugs, porn, TV binge-watching. Is there balance? 

Jessica Rareshide is a Certified Personnel Consultant and Certified Staffing Professional. She has counseled business owners on hiring issues related to job fit.  Her national career coaching has assisted others in how to conduct a results based job search, resume review consulting, and how to apply the concept of “Corporation of One™” for career success whether as an employee or an entrepreneur.  Her professional career experience encompasses four areas of business: Marketing, Sales, Management, and Information Technology.

 Rareshide’s years of community service leadership includes serving as president of the National Association of Women Business Owners New Orleans Chapter, Health Underwriters of Louisiana, IT Management Association, and Delta Safety Society. She currently serves on the board of NOLA-SHRM as Professional Development Director.